From the moment we committed our lives to Christ, we have petitioned Yahweh to help us to become what he had originally intended us to be from the beginning of time. What He had purposed a husband and wife to be. To become and accomplish what His plan was for us from the moment we were a thought in Him. We knew that we wanted to go back to the beginning – to the creation – the garden – not to the fall of man. The fall of man in Genesis 3 brought a curse to the ground whereby man would have to toil with sweat and the woman would have painful labor in childbirth and her husband would rule over her. We knew that His original intention was not that. We were on a mission to redeem all that had been lost, stolen, or given away.

Since we did not have a pattern, we trusted His Holy Spirit to speak to us and guide us in every decision we made. We gleaned best practices from couples around us. We had many passionate disagreements early on. The one thing we committed to was to pursue Yahweh and be joined together to become one. Here’s what works for us:

We handle all financial matters together. We discuss our purchases, goals and spending. This especially helped us when we were determined to get out of debt. We kept each other on track – especially when those wants somehow become needs.

We make decisions together. We both have the same Holy Spirit in us – if we both honor Him, it’s amazing how “one” we become in our thoughts and judgments. We have done this many times – when we believe Holy Spirit is speaking to us about something – we’ll both write it down – we cannot tell you how many times we are both hearing the same things – exactly – amazing. Especially on major decisions, we determine not to move until we both have peace about it. Like we said before – we have never had buyer’s remorse or giver’s remorse when we are in agreement.

We have so much respect for each other. You will not find a greater advocate than what we are for each other. We have purposed to be open and honest with each other – no matter the circumstance. We never have to wonder what the other is thinking – we have no secrets. That can only happen when you truly take the time to invest in one another and value the giftings and anointings each person brings to the union. No matter how scary, how hard – share thoughts – praying and trusting Holy Spirit to intervene and mediate.

We are so blessed today to walk in such a great and wonderful relationship. Truly, to us, Yahweh has honored His word and we have become “one flesh” Matthew 19:5